When I read the results of some national research, conducted by Mumsnet on behalf of BMI Healthcare, I was more than a bit shocked… They found that 71% of women would be likely to talk to their partner about problems conceiving, while only 30% would speak to their own mother, and just 18% would talk to their sister.
I have always believed that a problem shared is a problem halved. Maybe I am an over sharer, but my husband, mum and sister (not to mention aunt, cousin and close friends) were all well aware of what was (or wasn’t) happening when we were trying to conceive our first child. I had a miscarriage in 2010, and it took a long time for my body to get back to “normal” afterwards. It was frustrating, but talking about it definitely helped.
Towards the end of last year, I had an abnormal smear. Due to the fact I’d had some pain during ovulation, I was referred to the hospital for an ultrasound to check for anything untoward. I have to be honest, I didn’t speak to everyone about this. I was afraid that I had cancer. I was afraid that by putting off my smear test for so long, I’d put myself in danger. I told my partner and my mum about it, but nobody else. When I went for the scan (which was actually 1 year ago this week), I was terrified. I remember driving to the appointment wishing I had allowed someone to come with me, instead of insisting I’d be fine on my own. I didn’t feel fine on that car journey. In the end, I was lucky. The scan showed nothing untoward, and my follow up smear in January came back clear.
At the same time I was worrying about this, one of my online friends (who was also 28 at the time) was diagnosed with cervical cancer. She too had put off her smear following the birth of her son. Thankfully, her treatment has worked, and she has now been cancer free for 9 months! (Follow Fran’s story HERE).
What about you? Are you a sharer too, or don’t you like to discuss personal health concerns?