Aside from competitions and reviews, my blog has been very quiet recently. I used to love blogging. I used to have loads to say. I used to have a huge list of ideas to write about. I used to have time (and energy) to write.
Recently, the ideas have gone. My love of writing has left the building. The excitement of it all has deserted me. I feel drained.
This week though, I have seen lots of posts, tweets and blog posts about Mumsnet’s “This is my child” campaign. Basically, it is a campaign to help dispel the myths associated with having a child with special needs in the UK today.
Sam is currently being assessed for Autism, and I have two disabled sisters, so this campaign really hit home with me. It made me realise just how little people’s attitudes towards disabled people have changed in the past 30 years.
As a child, I witnessed dozens of people calling my sister names, moaning about her wheelchair, laughing at her when she had a seizure. It always hurt me, but I got used to it.
Now I am a parent. I see people looking at my son (who is only 26 Months old, but is the size of most 4 year olds). Sometimes, people look at him and frown when he throws a tantrum. They frown when he doesn’t answer their questions or return their waves. Then they look up at me. Expecting me to explain.
Sometimes, I say “Sam doesn’t speak yet”. Other times, I say nothing.
The point of this blog post is to help to spread the word about the #ThisIsMyChild campaign, and the fact that it is “Learning Disability Week” this week. The next time you see someone behaving in a way you deem “different”, try not to judge them.
If someone you know finds out their child has additional needs, DO NOT SAY YOU’RE SORRY! It’s nobody’s fault. If you don’t know what happens next or how to help, ask them!
It has taken me a while, but I am finally realising that asking for help doesn’t make me a bad parent. Sam is an amazing little boy, and I know that with the right support, he will grow up to be an amazing man, too!