The guys over at Winslow Resources recently sent me a copy of No Fighting, No Biting, No Screaming by Bo Hejlskov Elvén to review. This book has an RRP of £13.99, and is a great resource for parents of children who display challenging behaviour – whether on the Autistic Spectrum or not.
No Fighting No Biting No Screaming by Bo Hejlskov Elvén
The book doesn’t give you a strategy to follow, which is refreshing in a book of this type. Instead it does into why a behaviour might be happening and gives suggestions of ways to diffuse it or prevent it.
No Fighting No Biting No Screaming isn’t a miracle in paper form – a lot of it is common sense. That said, the book is great at making you think about things from another perspective. Rather than focussing on the unwanted behaviour (for example, screaming), switch your focus onto the reason why.
What’s It Like?
In a nutshell, No Fighting No Biting No Screaming kind of works like this: If your child is screaming, find out WHY they are screaming and stop the trigger. This in turn will stop the screaming and you’ll both be happy.
The book gives more than one possible reason for certain behaviours and more than one potential solution to them, so there’s plenty of ideas. I like that it’s not a “one approach fits all” kind of book. I also liked that the book focusses more on changing your approach to the person displaying the challenging behaviour, rather than you changing the person.
My son, for example was a massive biter. He would bite anyone and anything, whenever given the chance. His occupational therapist said it’s a sensory need, so we made sure he always had access to items he’s allowed to bite and chew. Since we did that, he has stopped biting people and clothes. This book is full of information and ideas like those the Occupational Therapist had. It’s a good tool for people to refer to, particularly if the person displaying the behaviours hasn’t had a sensory profile completed on them recently.
I’d definitely recommend it to people who are new to Sensory Processing Disorder, Autism and Challenging Behaviour.
I was sent this book to review, but all words and opinions are my own.